Hey loves and Happy New Year! I can't believe it is already 2014! I remember growing up thinking we would be zooming around town like the Jetsons in a space aged car by now, guess we are still a ways from that; for now we are plugging in our electric cars, eating organic foods from Trader Joe's and drinking from BPA free water bottles while running on the treadmill. Lately I've been spending lots of time hanging with Phoenix out and about in the uppity part of Atlanta known as Buckhead. I never dreamt that I would be a "Buckhead mom" who prefers my leggings and workout jacket over jeans + heels while pushing my overpriced stroller and sipping on Starbucks but here I am and I LOVE every minute of it!
As a mom of a very active little toddler I am coming into the new age of learning how to navigate the tantrum stage. Phoenix isn't exactly falling out in the middle of Target and screaming bloody murder like I've seen some kids and Lord help him if he should ever think about embarrassing me like that LOL I recently read an article about "How to Raise a Kid Who Isn't Whiny," and chucked at the thought of it, I mean it is funny and all until it is happening to you right? Kids at this age between 1-3 seem to have 'attitudes' whenever things don't quite go their way. Once I was in Target and stupidly rolled by the Goldfish shelf knowing full well that we weren't buying any. I had NO idea that he would even recognize the bag until he went into tantrum mode because he wasn't getting any. REALLY smh that is what you call "First. World. Problems." Phoenix is being raised in a privileged world accustomed to his cushy Britax carseat, being shuttled around in a Mercedes, wearing designer labels, already has a stamp in his passport and eats mostly organic REAL foods. I'd say he is living a pretty great life! My husband just asked me while at Catch Air, "Why didn't we have cool stuff like this as kids?" My answer, "Because we grew up in the hood!" It's nice knowing that you are able to provide your kids with a better quality of life than you had. I'm not saying I was raised in a shack and slept on a dirt floor or anything but Phoenix's upbringing thus far is definitely a step up from my days in the South Bronx.
The truth is in life you simply don't get EVERYTHING you want, no matter what Oprah and the book The Secret tells you, having EVERYTHING your heart desires is just impossible, at least according to me. I remember being upset as a teenager because my father promised me a leather jacket in high school and a car at my college graduation; neither which he furnished and I'm no worse off because of it. As a parent myself I know to either not promise your kids certain things you can't deliver or at least have the decency to live up to them. As a first time mom I used to give into his every whimper, especially when he was a bit younger, but now my response to him falling out because he can't take every single thing out of the bathroom cabinet will be FIRST. WORLD. PROBLEMS as I walk away hiding my grin :)
Here is a quote from the article I mentioned above:
My parenting style does not dictate having absolutely no treats or special things but I am certainly not going to give Phoenix his every desire. I think it is important to set real life precedents early on so kids don't grow up thinking life is a fairy tale with a happy ending all the time.